“On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.”
Sometimes, to become successful and get closer to the person we can become, you don’t need to add more things — we need to give up on some of them.
There are certain things that are universal, which will make me successful if I give them up, even though each one of us could have a different definition of success.
You can give up some of them today, while it might take a bit longer to give up others.
1. Give Up On The Unhealthy Lifestyle
“I must take care of your body. It’s the only place I have to live.” — Jim Rohn
If I want to achieve anything in life, everything starts here. First, I have to take care of my health, and there are only two things I need to keep in mind:
1. Healthy Diet
2. Physical Activity
Small steps, keep running and biking and skiing, no sugar drinks, no donuts, less meat, no candy, 10,000 steps per day, 50 minutes of exercise per day, I will thank myself every day for the rest of my life.
2. Give Up The Short-term Mindset
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” — Mae West
Successful people set long-term goals, and they know these aims are merely the result of short-term habits that they need to do every day. I shoot for the moon and as a result exceed everyone’s expectations of me even if I fall short.
These healthy habits shouldn’t be something I do; they should be something I embody.
There is a difference between: “Working out to get a summer body” and “Working out because that’s who I am.”
3. Give Up On Playing Small
“You’re playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” - Marianne Williamson
If I never try and take risk, or allow my dreams to become realities, I will never unleash my true potential.
And the world will never benefit from what I could have achieved.
So, I’ll voice my ideas, I won’t be afraid to fail, and certainly I won’t be afraid to succeed.
“I will change the way luxury homes are sold in Birmingham, Alabama.”
4. Give Up My Excuses
“It’s not about the cards you’re dealt, but how you play the hand.”
― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture
Successful people know that they are responsible for their life, no matter their starting point, weaknesses, and past failures.
I realize that I’m responsible for what happens next in my life which is both frightening and exciting.
This is the only way that I can become successful, because excuses limit and prevent me from growing personally and professionally.
I own my life; I own my body; I own my spirit, no one else will.
5. Give Up The Fixed Mindset
“The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.” ― Robert Greene, Mastery
People with a fixed mindset think their intelligence or talents are simply fixed traits, and that talent alone creates success — without effort. They’re wrong.
I know this. I invest an immense amount of time on a daily basis to develop a growth mindset, acquire new knowledge, learn new skills and change my perception so that it can benefit my life.
Who I am today, it’s not who I will be tomorrow.
6. Give Up Believing In The “Magic Bullet.”
“Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better” — Émile Coué
Overnight success is a myth. I must put in my time but attempt to learn as quick as possible and that includes learning from my mistakes.
I know that making small continual improvement every day will be compounded over time, and give me my desirable results.
That is why I plan for the future, but focus on the day that’s ahead of me, and improve just 1% every day. Each day I ask, “What can I do to better myself in the Birmingham real estate market?”
7. Give Up My Perfectionism
“Shipping beats perfection.” — Khan Academy’s Development Mantra
Nothing will ever be perfect, no matter how much I try.
Fear of failure (or even fear of success) often prevents me from taking an action and putting my creation out there in the world. But a lot of opportunities will be lost if I wait for the things to be right. I must welcome the knowledge gained from my mistakes.
8. Give Up Multi-tasking
“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” ― Winston S. Churchill
I know this. That’s why I choose one thing and then beat it into submission. No matter what it is — a business idea, a conversation, or a workout. I mail my expired listings every month over and over even though I only seldom get a response, I must keep my name top of mind.’ I must stay focused.
Being fully present and committed to one task, is indispensable.
9. Give Up My Need to Control Everything
“Some things are up to me, and some things are not up to us.” — Epictetus, Stoic philosopher
Differentiating these two is important. I must control what I have control over and leave the rest to others.
I must detach from the things I cannot control, and focus on the ones I can, and know that sometimes, the only thing I will be able to control is my attitude towards something.
10. Give Up On Saying YES To Things That Don’t Support My Goals
“He who would accomplish little must sacrifice little; he who would achieve much must sacrifice much; he who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly.” — James Allen
I know that in order to accomplish my goals, I will have to say NO to certain tasks, activities, and demands from my friends, family, and colleagues. At the same time I’ll continue to say YES to those that I can help in achieving their goals.
In the short-term, I might sacrifice a bit of instant gratification, but when my goals come to fruition, it will all be worth it.
11. Give Up The Toxic People
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
― Jim Rohn
People I spend the most time with, add up to who I’ll become.
There are people who are less accomplished in their personal and professional life, and there are people who are more accomplished than me. If I spend time with those who are behind me, my average will go down, and with it, my success.
But if I spend time with people who are more accomplished than me, no matter how challenging that might be, I’ll become more successful.
To this end, I will continue to go to my Yoga and spinning classes, racing my bike, I’ll stay in Rotary, I’ll meet with realtors that are more successful than me and I attempt to form alliances with other likeminded people.
12. Give Up My Need To Be Liked
“The only way to avoid pissing people off is to do nothing important.” — Oliver Emberton
I’ll think of myself as a market niche.
There will be a lot of people who like that niche, and there will be individuals who don’t. And no matter what I do, I won’t be able to make the entire market like me.
This is entirely natural, and there’s no need to justify myself. I’m facilitating change and I’m a disruptor, and most like neither.
The only thing I can do is to remain authentic, improve and provide value every day, and know that the growing number of “haters” means that I’m doing important things.
13. Give Up My Dependency on Social Media & Television
“The trouble is, you think you have time” — Jack Kornfield
I must eliminate impulsive web browsing and television watching. These two should never be an escape from my life or your goals. I must read and learn more, I must exchange ideas with people who have more experience than me, the key to success is knowledge.
Unless my goals depend on either, I should minimize (or even eliminate) my dependency on them, and direct that time towards things that can enrich my life.
Kerry Grinkmeyer is a real estate agent in Birmingham, AL specializing in the marketing and sales of luxury homes. Kerry's a retired financial advisor, he sold his firm, one of the largest in the Ameriprise Financial Advisor system in 2005 to his son, daughter and nephew. Now he's building one of the largest boutique real estate agencies that he'll eventually sell to his grandchildren. He the author of the children’s book The Christmas Web- A Family Christmas Tradition. Kerry competes in the Senior Olympics in to 50M, 100M and 200M dash as well as the 5k and 10k time trial cycling events.
Kerry offers you his financial background, knowledge of the community, love of business and family and energy to assist you in one of the most important financial decisions you'll make in your lifetime.
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